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Busy Is As Busy Does

Thursday, September 9th, 2004

Look, I'm not even going to say "I've been busy" anymore. Just assume it because it's always infallibly true. I'm always busy - too busy to do anything I'd like to do and too busy to do about the half the shit I should be doing. So - I've been-that-thing-that-now-goes-without-saying.

I saw my therapist today - yes, I'm seeing one. I'm still trying to figure out how I feel about it. I like my therapist, I think she's great and she is a Pisces, and who's more understanding than a Fish? But it's weird - I mean, usually when I go there, I'm fine. I'm not freaking out or about to cut or on the edge of a panic attack - so what do you talk about? The times you were - in the past? I'm still getting used to it. And yes, I'm going to try the happy pill route for a bit. We'll see how it works out.

I'm bringing this up only because my therapist seems to think there is something deeper to my utter distaste for the marriage thing. She asked if it was because I feared commitment; hardly - all of my relationships have been years-long. I don't even date because I know right away if the person in front of me is someone I could have something long-term with; and I don't dick around with dates. She asked why I think other people get married and I told her that I have no earthly idea what would prompt them to do something so insane. She keeps digging with this - I suppose thinking its the key to some much deeper issue, but I really don't think so. Not everyone jives with the marriage thing - and I'm against it more than most. I don't understand it, don't know why people do it and can't figure out why they'd even want to. The whole concept is beyond me. Look all I know is that more (much more) than half of them don't work - and, hey, I'm not a gambling kinda gal.

Which brings me to another subject in the same vein. Someone recently asked me how I could be so against the whole idea of marriage yet be so passionate about allowing gays the right to do so. This is what I told him:

No, I don't believe in marriage. But that doesn't mean I don't believe that people who do believe in it shouldn't have the right to do it if they so choose. As Voltaire said, "I may not agree with what you say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it." That's the principle here. I believe firmly in William Allen White's quote: "Liberty is the only thing you cannot have unless you are willing to give it to others." How can I expect freedom and equality if I don't support it for others?

And that's just that.

The Sanctity of Marriage, Eh?

Friday, June 25th, 2004

Let me go over this again, just so I can get it right, it's the gay people getting married that's going to ruin the "sanctity" of marriage. Correct?

Let me tell you one damn thing, if anything is ruining the sanctity of marriage, it's our dear, childish celebrities getting married every other year and on a whim - not two gay people who are madly in love with one another!

Britney Spears is getting married; again. Let us all not forget Britney's first "marriage" - a Vegas wedding affair that lasted all of 54 hours. Now she's getting hitched to her backup singer. Exactly how long has she been with this man? Apparently not too long considering his baby's momma is currently pregnant for him a second time! You know, because Britney so obviously understands and upholds the sanctimoniousness of marriage.

Yeah, about as much as that dumb matrimony-whore Jennifer Lopez. Or J-Lo. Or Ester. Or P. Diddy. Or whatever name she has chosen this year.

I mean here are these people getting hitched for the most assinine reasons (real love lasts longer than a few hours or a few months, people) but you have a bunch of conservative fuckwads crying that letting a homosexual couple who's been together for 20+ years is ruining the "sanctity of marriage". COME ON!

Gay Marriage Causes Cat 5 Hurricane, News at 11

Wednesday, May 5th, 2004

If you know little about the southern state of Louisiana, other than your exposure to it from me here, you might believe it to be teeming with open-minded, rather free-thinking, individuals. The truth is, you'd be very, very wrong.

While not sitting exactly inside of the "Bible-belt", Louisiana is still, for all intents and purposes, a largely fanatical Christian state and (barring New Orleans, of course) very conservative. Baton Rouge itself, where I live, is one tight-ass city. Even those just from New Orleans come and are shocked at the puritan, conventional ways of the common folk.

That said, it should come as no surprise to find out where the majority of Louisianians stand on the issue of gay marriage. This article appeared in yesterdays The Advocate (the main newspaper for south Louisiana):

Group Urges Ban on Same Sex Marriages

A group of Protestant ministers, a Roman Catholic priest and a handful of legislators told a committee room overflowing with supporters Monday that Louisiana needs a constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage.

One of three bills in the Legislature to create that amendment is up for debate today in the Senate Judiciary A committee.

The group also opposes four pending bills that it deems pro-homosexuality.

"Sodomites have a right to marry, just not to one another," Bill Shanks, pastor of New Covenant Fellowship in New Orleans told the cheering crowd at the State Capitol.

Louisiana law already allows marriage only between a man and woman, and Louisiana does not recognize same-sex marriages from other states.

The bill being heard today would lock traditional marriage into the state constitution, making the law harder to change in the future.

According to Shanks, God views gay marriage as an abomination and, unless Louisiana bans it stronger, God might visit a calamity on the state worthy of Noah.

"One Category 5 hurricane coming up the river would take care of all Sodomite marriages -- along with ours and our churches'," he said.

The group -- which has no name -- was formed by Apostle Willie Wooten of Gideon Fellowship in New Orleans, said organizer Leslie Ellison. "It's not really an organization. Apostle Wooten led the charge," Ellison said.

The group -- ministers at the committee room's dais and people in the audience -- went to the Capitol to lobby legislators on the proposed amendment and other bills, Ellison said.

Supporters filled the 100 seats in the hearing room, crowded the aisles and clogged the hallway. House officials opened another hearing room with an audio-video feed to handle the overflow.

"We call on our lawmakers -- and especially the Black Caucus members -- to be strong and courageous as you give priority to this matter and do all that is in your power to protect historic marriage," Wooten said.

Disasters "heaped upon" Louisiana's black community occur because "a lot of our legislators are not on the side of God and His moral laws," Wooten said.

The four bills Wooten fingered for opposition, because he said they promote homosexuality, are all filed by black legislators.

  • Sen. Cleo Fields, D-Baton Rouge, has Senate Bill 217 on granting sick leave. It would define a domestic partner as a spouse.
  • Sen. Paulette Irons, D-New Orleans, has Senate Bill 700 on making public schools create policies on bullying. The bill, Wooten said, would force schools to teach tolerance of homosexuality.
  • Rep. Karen Carter, D-New Orleans, filed House Bill 845, which would prohibit any discrimination based on sexual orientation. Wooten said it would make being homosexual a civil right.
  • Rep. Ed Murray, D-New Orleans, has House Bill 1229, which would prohibit employment discrimination based on sexual orientation.

"My bill makes sense," said Murray, who described himself as a practicing Christian active in his church.

"The Christianity I practices teaches that you should respect people," Murray said. He said his bill does nothing but bar discrimination against people who are gay.

Wooten disagreed.

"It is not a civil-rights issue. It is not an issue of discrimination. It is a moral issue," Wooten said.

The state needs to be protected from "counterfeit" marriages that will devalue other, traditional marriages, he said.

Homosexual marriage is contrary to Scripture, said the Rev. William Maestri, a priest with the Archdiocese of New Orleans.

"If you eliminate the uniqueness of marriage, you destroy it," said the Rev. Larry Bizette of the Baton Rouge Christian Center Church.

Because voters must approve it, "the constitutional amendment will allow the people of the state of Louisiana to define what marriage is," said Gene Mills, executive director of the Louisiana Family Forum.

The measure requires approval of two thirds of the House and Senate and majority approval by voters this fall.

One legislator, Rep. Steve Scalise, R-Metairie, told the crowd that protecting traditional marriage in the state's constitution is vital.

A recent court decision in Massachusetts and actions by the "rogue" mayor of San Francisco to sanction same-sex marriages could force the state to accept those marriages, he said.

Scalise is one of the sponsors of another constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriages.

We're working with some real geniuses here, folks.

My favorite line, also that of my gay friends that have read this bilge, is that a major storm will come and wipe out the state if gays are allowed to marry. That's right, their ever-loving and I'm-so-damn-peaceful-I-have-a-dove-for-one-of-my-symbols God is going to rain down a Category 5 Hurricane on Louisiana if gays are allowed to marry. Makes perfect sense to me.

And I'm angered, but not surprised, by this charming line:

...has Senate Bill 700 on making public schools create policies on bullying. The bill, Wooten said, would force schools to teach tolerance of homosexuality.

Oh for fuck's sake, let's not do that. Let's teach children that it's a-okay to beat up anyone in school they think might be gay. All the world needs is a few more horrible Matthew Shepard incidents; it's ok to bully and hurt gay people because "God doesn't like them". Yes, that's what I'd want to teach MY children. I thought Jesus taught to love everyone - even those you consider your enemies.

And are we living in the Middle Ages again? Make it okay to fire someone because of their sexual preference?? "Yes, sorry, Frank, you're the best employee we've got, you work your ass off, meet all deadlines and get along with everyone here at the office. But we found out you're gay, so we're going to have to let you go. You understand." Give me a fucking break.

Their big main gripe is, as always, about Sodom. Supposedly (though it never officially says so), the Sodomites were gay - so gay people today are sodomites; evil as can be. So what about lesbians? I always wondered...does God like lesbians, then?

I'm convinced that "Apostle Willie Wooten", leader of some anonymous "group", is nothing but a fucking crock anyway, but still. All of these other somewhat valid religious leaders going to rally against equality and the entire love-everyone concept fills me with anger, and shame for my home state.

God is Love they always like to say, but he HATES gay people. Where in the love is there room for hate? Why does God hate gay people? I've read, in one of those infamous Chick Tracts (my version - Trick Tracts) that sodomy was the only sin God ever wiped out an entire city for. Excuse me, didn't the old bastard wipe out the entire world once because everyone was so cruel and unloving? Yeah, thought so. I can't believe in a homophobic God, I'm sorry. God is so above our human foibles and worries and judgements it's not even funny. At one time, people read into the Bible and believed that God created black people to be slaves - it didn't make it TRUE or RIGHT! Chew on that one for a bit.

We can't give them equal rights because they are different - they are gay and we are not. Isn't the entire foundation of the United States equality for all? But still, blacks and women had to fight for their rights, and now, so do gay people. Want to hear the argument I always hear to that statement? "It's different - women can't help being female, and blacks can't change their skin color. They were born that way. Gay people choose to be gay." Oh, really? And you know this for a fact? Okay then, let's play a little game, Conservative Homophobe, I want you, right now, to choose to be attracted to, and able to have a relationship with, someone of the same sex. Come on, right now, do it. If it's so easy to just "not be gay", then try it. Do you choose to be straight?! No, you were born that way. So what's the fucking difference, you morons?

The whole mess makes me sick - it's so unfair and completely not right on so many different levels. I've never seen the Christian church do much of anything good, and this just furthers that stance. Burn the witches, strike down the non-conformists, stone the New Age shops, stamp out the gays. Welcome to the cult of Christ - believe or be damned.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I've got to go board up my windows for that Category 5 hurricane that is going to beat down on my bi-sexual self's house while I sit in a tub full of ice preparing for my downward descent into hell because I hang out with and support all these sodomites. Because, remember kiddies, "Sodomites have a right to marry - just not to one another."

Ignoring What’s Important

Thursday, February 26th, 2004

Not much time, just a quick Thursday thought.

According to this article the Bush administration's plan to clean up mercury pollution is too lax. A scary statistic states that, in 2000, 630,000 U.S. newborns had "unsafe" levels of mercury in their blood. Mercury, in case you didn't know, causes brain damage.

So why is it that Bush is pussy-footing around things that are vital and, obviously, very important, yet putting all of his concentration and power on things that are actually nobody's business but the people involved? That's right - gay marriages. If Bush would spend half as much time and effort on real issues as he does trying to shove his religious beliefs down everyone's throat, you might actually see some progress.

Just my two coppers.

Love Will Always Triumph

Tuesday, November 18th, 2003

One for freedom & love! Equality will win out in the end. You're fighting a losing battle, religious fundies.

Some kind soul brought three bags of fruit to work yesterday. I gorged myself on kumquats - quite possibly my favorite fruit. If you've never had one, you're missing out. It's sort of like an orange with a hint of lemon bite. Yum.

It was brought to my attention (thanks Paul), that I neglected to answer the questions I posed a few days ago: If the world were ending, what three people would you visit and what three things would you do?

Myself - I would visit my Mom, Brandon and Jeremy - who I'd stay with 'til the end. I would get piss-ass drunk, eat a pizza and then have mad sex 'til the big bang ended it all.

I felt like playing Unconscious Mutterings:

  1. Plan B:: What I always end up falling back on
  2. Seattle:: A place I think I'll never visit
  3. The lady wore:: Red velvet
  4. Upsetting:: The glass on the table...and milk goes everywhere
  5. Tampon:: Tampax
  6. Celebrity:: Is not what it used to be
  7. Baja:: Jeep
  8. 64:: Almost 69!
  9. RGB:: Really Green Bug (yes, I know what it really means - that's just the first thing that popped into my head)
  10. Milkshake:: McDonald's Chocolate

Is there something weird about wearing hats? I wear hats often - especially to work. I am the only person, ever, that wears hats to the office. I always get compliments and remarks about them. At least one day out of the week, I'm in a hat. It's usually more b/c my hair was a bit dirty and I was too lazy to wash it rather than a huge fashion statement. But the fact is, I've always worn hats. When I do, everyone seems so astonished - as if it's some brave and brash style I'm sporting. What's up with that? Do you wear hats? Do people act all amazed when you do?

Ah, let me get back to the grind. I'm rather busy this morning - though I'm jamming out to The Fugees on my headphones to drown out the noise around me. Easier to concentrate that way. What's your favorite music to listen to at work? It's usually something hard for me. Any electronica gets me going - especially when I'm working on computers. BT is great, as is Prodigy. As long as it's more hard than trance-y, I'll work like a speedfreak.

Legalize It

Monday, August 4th, 2003

Man, everywhere I go on the 'net, people are all about this gay marriage thing. Blah-blah. There always seems to be this huge misconception going on though, on both sides. The pro-gay-marriagers believe the nons hate gays (this isn't always, probably not even mostly, true) and the pro-no-gay-marriagers believe the pros are all bleeding-heart liberals (even less than true). Even Bush - I really don't believe he hates gays. Thinks they're "different" and believes they're probably going to hell, sure, but I don't think he personally dislikes them. He's a big Christer - you know how they are - "hate the sin, not the sinner" shit.

For the record, if you don't already know it, I'm for legalizing gay marriage. Why the hell not? The country is supposed to be about equality - for all - 'nuff said. Personally, me, I can't see why in goddess' name anyone would want to be legally joined in marriage. But - whatever floats your boat. If you want to, you should have the right to do so. Who cares?

But enough of all that bilge. It'll happen someday. It's happening all over the world, eventually it will catch on here, too. Or it won't - either way, everyone will still feel the same about it in the end.

What I really got on here for was to ask you a question. Yes, you. And you, and you - and that guy over there with the strange, green hat. Have you been having a really bad week? Starting last week, did things start just getting shitty, did your attitude take a dive into the depths of hell? Did you wonder why you were PMSing again (men, too - men most definitely PMS)? The reason I'm asking is I have been having a horrible last month - even before it started. Last week was awful, this week doesn't look to be more promising. But the topper is that my attitude needs a serious adjustment. Not three weeks ago I was happy-go-lucky, picking daisies and singing in the rain (I should've been slapped I was so happy). Not that life itself was any better - but I could deal with it. It was no big deal. Right now, everything is pissing me off.

While this, in itself, is not rare - I'm bonafied bitch at times - I noticed this in other people. I started asking around and everyone was having bad times, bad attitudes and unaccounted for rage. So I started wondering why?

I'm of the belief that nothing is coincidental and everything that happens does so for a reason - the universe is truly that intricate and perfect. Being the astrologer that I am, I always look to the stars - what's going on with the planets right now? (If you think the planets can't affect us, you are way wrong, bub - you think only the Moon is capable of doing so?) I didn't see anything in the skies that explained what was going on. The Sun is in Leo - generally a happy-go-lucky time and the Moon just finished its trips through Leo-Virgo-Libra last week; nothing in the major luminaries that could explain this rash behavior. The summer heat? Unlikely.

Then it hit me - doh! I recently read (and even put on the side of the blogger over there) that Mars is coming closer to the Earth than it ever has in recorded history. By August 17 Mars will be visible in the night sky - as clear and bright as the Moon. Exciting, no doubt, to the common layperson - fucking awesome, I know, to the avid astronomy-buff and telescope-gazer. To the astrologer it means much more. Mars is the planet of war and aggression - passion and fire. The male vibration of the complete energy that forms all life. It stands to good reason, now that I see it, that everyone would be feeling angry and aggressive when Mars is coming so close to our planet's surface! Just a little Mars fire heating things up. Aries Linda Goodman would've been so excited to see it happening - her ruling planet giving such an intimate preview. Now that I know the reason for it, I'm not so angry. In fact, I'm thrilled.

Gay Marriage – Making it Personal

Friday, August 1st, 2003

"I believe in the sanctity of marriage," Bush said. "I believe a marriage is between a man and a woman, and I think we ought to codify that one way or the other."

So, again, I have to say - whenever the officials start talking about this gay marriage thing, I never hear them talk about the legality issues it would raise, how it would effect the govm't, etc. All I hear them talking about are their own, personal viewpoints. That's not right.

If Bush would stand up and say "We cannot let gays marry because of this and this..." and stated good, solid reasons for it then fine. But for him to stand up and say "I just don't think that is what a marriage is" - no, I don't think so. I really don't care what he thinks a marriage is. What I care about is living in a country that is supposed to be about equality but instead is a whole bunch of hypocrisy.

And what is marriage? These officials have been crying over the "sanctity" of marriage...what's so sanctimonius about it? 50% of marriages end in divorce and I'd put all my money on the bet that half of those still-married-50% are completely unhappy in their marriage and can't or won't leave. Think I'm being pessimistic? No one likes to hear marriage debunked. We all like to think that someday we will find that one, perfect person ("the one"), we'll be wed in the perfect wedding and spend the rest of our days in wedded bliss. Everyone likes to believe in that fairy tale when reality is staring us right in the face saying, "It ain't that way, bub - ever." Think of all the married couples you know. Now think about all of the ones that are happy - no, no not simply content with their station in life - happy. Think of all the divorcees you know - bet they're not singing roses about married life. I've seen two happy marriages in my life - and the only reason they were so is because the couples were about as bland as two communion wafers. Real people aren't happy in marriage - not forever.

I keep waiting for the administration to give me a good reason why we should not let gays marry. Is it going to hurt the economy, is it going to screw up preset laws? Give me something other than "I don't like it". You cannot base your decision on your belief that god will punish us with fiery wrath or that acceptance of gay people will morally corrupt our entire nation. That's your ignorant and personal views - and are destroying the equality that America is supposed to stand for. It's the same bullshit we went through years ago - claiming to be "equal to all" yet denying women and black citizens the right to vote. We'll never be equal if we keep being run by a bunch of hypocritical, religous ignorami.